I received such beautiful, heartfelt and inspiring responses to my post I’m Done With Feeling Not Good Enough . It seems to have stirred something up. It’s one thing to know you’re not alone in feeling something and another to see you’re not alone. I’m SO glad I found the courage to write it.
One woman told me, “After I read your post on feeling not good enough I suddenly realized that it might be fears of not being good enough that have been driving the anxiety I’ve lived with all my life”
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A poetess wrote me this; “Did you hear thunder? No? I thought you may have had something to do with it, having started this open conversation about the god Goodenough. I dreamt that I arrived at school to fetch my child and was faced with
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I’ve recently irritated someone with my upbeat optimistic approach to facing life’s challenges. On the other hand someone else told me I shouldn’t focus so much on how hard it all is.
Long ago I learned that if I’m being criticised by the left and the right, it means I’m standing somewhere in the center.
To answer yet a third person, I think I get excited about growing and healing because it’s my temperament. You know some of us are Tigger and others are Eyore. Others are Piglet or Rabbit or Kanga or Pooh. I’m a little bit Boing! But I also think it comes down to choice.
The thing about rejection is that it’s a matter of perspective. The rejection is usually not about you, it’s just there offering you a lesson – usually the lesson has something to do with realizing that when someone doesn’t want you it’s not a comment on your intrinsic value or worth. Your logical mind probably gets what I’m saying, maybe you even nodded your head in agreement, but that doesn’t mean it’s easy to remember this when you’re writhing on the floor clutching your stinging ego. When your child rejects the meal you just spent your last bit of energy making for her, when your teenager rejects your clothes, values, opinions (and everything else about you except your money and car), when your family rejects your suggestions, your child rejects your hug and kiss… ow, ow, OWWW, I know. But it doesn’t mean you are any less worthy or valuable. It means they are in their own process.
I got a rejection letter from a literary agent yesterday. She was very nice about it. Here, I’ll show you:
“There’s some good, smooth prose in these pages – in fact, the quality of writing is better than most of the material that crosses my desk. I was also impressed with your credentials, and it’s clear that you’ll be offering some very solid advice throughout. It’s with regret, though, that I must admit that I’ve got reservations about my ability to place the project… (here she describes her experience briefly) …What with my recent experience, I suspect I wouldn’t be the best advocate for your project. In spite of the book’s strengths, I’d better bow out.