About This Blog
I believe that underneath all our shame and guilt, all our flaws and imperfections – our anger, frustration, bad behaviour and insecurities – under all that, we are beautiful glowing beings of light.
All that other stuff just happens when we forget that.
This funny old human life seems to be about remembering that in essence we are glorious, shining and unique in the best possible way. Each one of us – no matter what.
There’s nothing wrong with you. Whatever it is you feel bad about isn’t because you are bad or faulty. It is because somewhere along the line you got the message that you weren’t ok as you are. That was a lie.
The bottom line is that we need love and acknowledgment. When we don’t get it we become scared that we are not good enough to be loved, not important enough to be listened to, not worth the effort of having our needs met. There is nothing more painful than that in all of our human existence. Nothing beats that hurt – not loss, not trauma, not ANYTHING.
And it’s not even true! Ever.
It doesn’t feel good to be out of alignment with your soul purpose – which is to remember your shiny-ness and live it. So this is a wonderful clue for you. Whenever you don’t feel good, it means you are out of alignment with your soul’s true nature.
That means that anything in your life which makes you feel anything less than good is actually HELPING you know you are straying from your path. And when you are aware of straying you can choose to come back to your real truth – which is, that you are ALWAYS loved, there is nothing at all wrong with you and you are born to shine your unique glorious light. That is your soul purpose.
So this is where our children come in because – as much as they bring us love, gratitude and joy in the deepest of ways – they also make us feel bad a lot. Bless their teaching hearts. They just come along and trigger us wherever we still hold a belief that we are not enough, not worthy, unlovable – and all that other nonsense that feels so true when it comes along.
When they touch on those spots we get angry at them, shout, try to discipline, withdraw our love and approval, try to get away from their neediness… but they’re not doing anything wrong. There is nothing wrong with them either. They are just designed to bring us the healing we need to come back into alignment with our soul purpose of shining our unique light – just like you did for your own parents.
And look how well that went…
That’s because it all depends on how we deal with those reminders from our children.
When you have a big reaction to your child (or anything else in your life), it is a sure indicator that it’s tapping on somewhere you hold the belief you are anything less than wonderful and amazing.
And, if you recall, that is not true.
Anytime you feel less than GOOD and you look, you’ll find those naughty little beliefs trying to misguide you from the truth of you. The beliefs that we are ‘not enough’ mostly come, of course, from our own childhood experiences. Things your parents or teachers told you, how people treated you, how your needs were met or not… Those beliefs are NOT TRUE.
Am I saying this enough?
So bottom line? There is nothing wrong with you and when your children (or anything else) drives you nuts, it’s because you are forgetting that.
Your children are helping you remember your true, glorious, shining nature. They are guiding you back into alignment with your soul self. Bless them, bless them BLESS them for challenging us so deeply and so often. Whenever they make you feel bad feelings, they are actually helping you learn to feel better.
How to go about uncovering those beliefs and feeling better is the topic of this blog. Your children (along with everything else in your life) are your guides along this path.
Welcome to Feeling Better.
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